I watched this movie called Walk of Shame about this a reporter that ends up stranded in downtown L.A. without a phone, car, ID or money after a one-night stand leaves, with only 8 hours to make it to the most important job interview of her life. She ends up running around lost in the ‘hood’ clad in 6-inch heels and a yellow bandage dress. Cops, drug dealers, a bus full of people and actual hookers all assume she’s a failing working girl slash crack dealer. At the end she gives this speech about how it isn’t fair to stereotype women, and make them feel bad for getting some. “I am not ashamed”. It’s also funny how she was immediately judged and no one but Pookie gave her a moment to explain the roller-coaster ride she was stuck on.
This ‘men are the conquerors and women are the fallen lands’ mentality is seriously played out. If a woman wants to have a one night stand with some dude she barely knows and never see him again she should. We are each responsible for our own actions, for who we are and where we want to go…so how does anyone have enough time on their hands to go around crucifying others for how they choose to live. If I’m not committing some crime, or infringing on another freedoms, how I choose to use my freedom is my business.
Ladies, what you choose to do is for you and society need not limit you. We have been raised to be ashamed of our sexuality, but we are sexual and sensual beings so following logic, we are supposed to be ashamed of ourselves. No wonder most women have insecurities and seek validation that sometimes leads them to dark places. We should embrace our sexuality – don’t get me wrong I don’t mean we should walk around nude and make like bunnies but learning to love our sensuality will make us stronger in what is still a mans world.
If you are saving yourself, stay true and don’t falter to pressure. Let it happen on your terms. If you’re only comfortable in relationships, then make that clear and don’t let some jackass calling you a prude push you into a one night mistake. If you want to be a sexual butterfly or once in a while spice up your life with a one nighter, be smart; buy condoms (no this isn’t the guys role, it’s your body, protect it), carry a toiletry bag with a few items just in case (like a toothbrush, comb, undies etc), if you’re at his place let someone know where you are and the next morning take some time to fix yourself up.
I know in this twisted world it’s become harder to trust people, and knowing when someone genuinely needs help is difficult. It’s easier to ignore than to risk getting conned. But imagine if the cops in the movie had listened to her….she would have gotten home and been on time for her interview.
Labeling people you don’t know is unfair and the one time you use that label you may ruin someone’s life. That’s how powerful words are. Just because someone is dressed in a certain way or someone tells you “so and so is a crack dealin’ ho” doesn’t mean that’s who they are. Taking a moment to get to know someone may reveal so much and make you feel like a fool for judging do quickly.
Things are not always what they seem.